You have probably been dating someone for quite some time now and you are wondering if he will ever marry you. You don’t really know where you stand with him and all you want is to have some clarity on what his intentions really are.
A lot of women share your concerns as men seem to have a hard time committing these days.
You can choose to keep the status quo and perhaps waste some of your precious years in the process, or if you consider that time is precious ( which you should) you should look for signs he is or is not serious about you.
In this post, I am going to share the 5 signs that I think, from my own experience, mean he will NOT marry you.
Men don’t marry for the same reasons as women
The desire for marriage in men does not happen the same way as it does for us women.
Most of us women grow up with the dream of one day marrying our prince in a fairy tale ceremony and live happily ever after. (I am a bit generalizing here as there are obviously exceptions and slightly different versions of that).
Marriage is deeply ingrained is women’s psyche (thank you Mr Walt Disney for that). We want to be married for marriage itself and what it implies in terms of social status, security, and of course love. We want to proudly wear a diamond ring, symbol of the eternal love we were promised and to be able to say that we are that man’s wife.
Marriage for us women is the natural course of being in a “good” relationship with a man but to men, even a “good” relationship with a woman does not mean marriage.
Men on the other hand grow up different types of dreams and fantasies.
They definitely want to find the girl of their dreams but they do not think of marriage itself as a dream they want to fulfill.
Marriage comes to men as a consequence of his deep desire to be a particular girl so badly that they fear losing her to another guy if they don’t marry her.
Marriage to men become obvious either instantaneously if they meet a someone who perfectly fits the description of the dream girl in his mind, but sometimes it can take months or even years and a little trigger to come to the realization that they want to marry this particular woman, but what you need to understand is that they never think of marriage as the goal or the natural course of things. They think of it as a way to avoid the pain of losing a person.
In short, a man will marry a woman if he believes he ” cannot live without her”, which is not the same as saying he “can live with her”.
So if you are in a situation where you don’t quite see that he feels this way for you, these 5 signs that he does not want to marry you will help you gain some clarity.
The following signs means he will NOT Marry you
1. He never talks about the future with you
The most obvious sign to me that a man does not intent to marry is if he never talks about future plans with you.
If he is always using the word “I” instead of “We”. If you are not included in his future projects, it means you are not part of this picture.
Not having you included in his vision for the future is a clear sign to me that he does not intend to marry you.
A man who sees you as his future wife will talk effortlessly include you in all his dreams and future projects: his dream life with you, his dream home where he sees himself living with you and will definitely talk about how much he desires children with you ( if he is into children).
If none of this is happening after years of being in a relationship, you need to reassess your relationship and maybe cut your losses if you want to get married.
2. He does not care about your future
This one is the other side of the same coin really. When a man is not seem interested in your own future plans or is not bothered not being included in them, he is probably not seeing himself in your future and has no intention to marry you.
Think of it this way, if you envision a future with a man, you would want to know that you are part of his future too. You would care about what is going on in his life and how it can affect his future.
Someone who does not show interest in what is going on with your life and what are you future plans simply does not see himself in it for the long term.
3. He is there in good times but he is gone missing in bad times
A man who truly loves you and sees you as a future wife will always be there by your side in good and bad times.
He will even make it a point being there for you in bad times because that is when you need him the most.
That being said, the fact that someone stood by your side in bad times does not necessarily mean he wants to marry you, but if he does not, it likely means he does not want to marry you.
4. He avoids the topic or vaguely speaks about it
When you specifically want to talk about marriage, he dismisses you, he probably does not want to marry you.
And even when you put him in a corner to and force him to talk about it, he remains vague about it or gives you excuses as to why he cannot marry you for the time being.
Someone who really wants to marry you will want to talk about it with you, he will want to plan things to make it happen.
5. He never introduced you to his family
This is not a definite sign that he does not want to marry you but combined with others, can indicate his true intentions.
Usually when a man sees you in his future wife, he proudly introduces you to his family and friends. If the introduction is slow to arrive, especially after years of being in a relationship, he will probably never do.
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