Sorry to tell you this, but we are currently living in the golden age of fuckboys. It has never been easier to meet as many people as you can through social media and dating platforms which have become the playground of fuckboys.
Fuckboys have one goal when it comes to relationships ==> They want to have sex with as many as they can, and they will do anything in the pursuit of their goal, which include camouflaging into your price charming that you waited your entire life for to get in your pants.
Which is why it is so important to spot the early signs of fuckboyism so that you don’t add to the already huge of list of girls played and left heartbroken by a fuckboy.
1. He sends you nudes and asks you for the same
That is probably one of the most obvious signs and the easiest sign to recognize a fuckboy and does not need further development.
2. He comes on too strong
A fuckboy comes on very strong because he is on a mission to sleep with you and next you and he does not have forever to do that.
That’s why everything about him is so intense: He is too charming, extra put together, too flirting, too confident. He basically presents himself as your dream guy so that you eat into his hand.
Then he covers you with compliments, says too many nice things to you, tells you how lucky he feel meeting you, constantly texts you and is very impatient to see you again.
Here is example of phrases that I was told by fuckboys:
- I never felt such a strong connection on a first date with someone before
- I am so lucky that I met you
- You may get a ring on your finger very soon (on a first date)
- I lose my mind when I look at you
- I can’t control myself around you
Most girls who dream of prince charming would be flattered by the fuckboy attitude and fall into the trap of “Oh my god he likes me soo much …he can’t wait to see me…he is so into me” and a lot of emotionally fragile girls will starts developing feelings and trusting the guy right away.
You need to remember that when you are seeing a new guy , you are seeing a total stranger and he is a stranger until you have known him for a few months, so you cannot believe everything he says especially when what he says is like music to your ears. When something is too good to be true, it probably is.
A side note for wealthy fuckboys: Oh boy, those are probably the trickiest to spot because they actually can amplify the effect of perfect guy fantasy because they have a lot going on for themselves, so most “regular” girls fall hard for it.
They are rich, well-educated with a good job, handsome, well put together, living in nice areas, driving nice cares, having nice hobbies and the list goes on…
They know that their money ( and what they can do with it) will make most girls blind to everything else that is going on so they use it as their secret weapon to hook up with as many girls as they can.
They will work hard on impressing you only to sleep with you and move on to the next one, so never buy into the fantasy of some rich guy who has an interest in you because you are something special too quickly. You are absolutely special but this guy might be there only for the short run.
3. He talk about big plans
All guys know that girls are not indifferent when the future is brought up, but fuckboys use that to manipulate us.
A fuckboy will use the power of the words like “we” and “our” and “us” to manipulate you into believing that you and him have a big future ahead of you and put all your guards down.
Talk is cheap and meaningless and does not have to be backed with concrete actions so why would fuckboy not use it to get to you. That’s how a fuckboy thinks.
Note that he may not promise you the moon and won’t bluntly tell you that he will marry you if he is a little bit decent but reality is he does not need to go that far to get what he wants. He only needs to insinuate that he is serious about you with big future plans because he has had a good success rate doing that.
4. He rushes things
It is never a good sign when a guy is too impatient.
Let me explain:
There is a good impatient attitude and a bad one.
If he is impatient because he really likes you he will show it to you in a gentle way, he won’t push you to do things and will move forward on your terms.
If he is impatient because he wants to get sex asap, he might mention sex as early as the first date and skip the whole dating thing to get to sex right away, and if you refuse, he will try to make you feel bad about it because that’s all he wants.
5. He is too confident
A guy who really likes you will always be a little nervous when hanging out with you or going on a date with you. It is just natural.
So when the guy has just way too much confidence, it indicates two things:
1. He does not fear losing you, he does not care that much about you.
2. He has a lot of practice behind him and he knows exactly what he is doing. At this point it became a numbers game to him.
6. The booty call
For those who don’t know, a booty call is a sexual invite that usually happens over the phone through texting late in the night.
Fuckboys are legendary booty callers and they usually have a list of potential victims in that they go over one by one.
If you receive an invite to a guy’s place out of the blue late in the evening or after midnight, assume it’s a booty call and that he is a fuckboy.
7. He says he wants to slow thing down after sleeping with you
The old me was very confused when a guy who seemed so excited at the start suddenly said he wanted to slow things down.
The new me knows that this is just a roundabout way of saying that he wants to move on to another girl now that he got what he was there for.
Guys are just like us, they don’t lose interest after having sex if they really like someone…so when this happens to you, all it means is he does not really like you he just wanted to sleep with you but he can’t just break it off for you that bluntly…at least he is not ghosting you.
The worst thing you can do is to keep entertaining the relationship after he asked to slow it down and still sleeping with him.
8. He want to see you only at his place after you had sex
The fuckboy was never interested in getting to know you or courting you property by taking you on dates and impressing you. He did it at the start because it was the bear minimum for him to get to your pants without arousing suspicions.
Unfortunately, sex is all he sees in you and that is why he is asking you to come over to his.
9. You feel it in your guts
Our guts are there to protect us if we care to listen.
A fuckboy will show you enough inconsistencies and mixed signals to alert your subconscious mind and trigger your gut feelings that something isn’t right…all you need to do is to be in tune with your feelings and not ignore them.
If you feel he is a fuckboy, he probably is.
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