It is never easy to admit that a guy is not serious about us, especially if we are very much into him,

but I learned the hard way that it is better to spot someone who has no intention to be serious with me sooner rather than later.

I could have called this post the 12 warning signs you are in a situationship,

because the same signs that indicate someone is not serious about you are those that indicate you are in a situationship.

Effectively, you are in a situationship if someone you are seeing is deliberately avoided defining your relationship.

There could be many reasons why he is not serious about you and is only looking to hook up.

Maybe he has his mind elsewhere and he might be not ready for a relationship.

It could also be that he does not want a relationship with YOU because you are not his type or he does not see you as worthy to be his girlfriend.

Whatever his reasons, the honest thing for him to do would be to tell you how he really feels about you before you build up too many expectations and you get too attached…

but don’t count on all guys to be that honest and learn how to spot the signs early enough and cut your losses.

Now, let’s dive into the 12 signs you are on a situationship:


1. He does not go deep

A guy who is not serious about you will probably want to keep things on a surface level.

He will briefly be asking you superficial questions but he won’t be really curious about you or keen to get to know you on a deeper level.

Getting into a deep conversation to really get to know each other is too much investment for a short-term relationship…so if this is the vibe he is giving you…he is probably just wasting your time.


2. He does not want to call you girlfriend

If you feel like you do everything that implies you are in a relationship but he still hasn’t called you girlfriend or asked you to be his one and only after 2-3 months ( give it 2-3 months of wait and see but not beyond).

A guy who really likes and is serious about you will usually make you his girlfriend quickly because he would want to “secure” you and would be afraid that you might be seeing other people.


3. He gives you too many “maybes”

If he is always vague about most things that imply a relationship or a future, or you feel he avoids saying anything that would imply a commitment on his part…he is too doubtful to be serious about you.

When a guy says things like “we’ll see, “I will let you know”, or “we will see how things go” and avoids any form of verbal commitment even for small things…he is probably not serious about you.

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4. If he disappears when you need him

A guy who does not want to invest in you will suddenly be unavailable if you need him for anything.

That is because he never planned to invest in you more than the bare minimum that it takes to have some of your company, which is probably surface-level investments like calling texting you.

He does not care about you enough to help you if you need anything or if you are in trouble for anything, so he will come up with any excuse not to be there for you if you need him.


5. He gives you too many booty calls

One booty call is already one too many if you ask me, but you could tell that you are a booty call when someone always texts you when they are bored or horny and ask to meet you after midnight in their place.

Look for patterns when you meet someone new before you start investing in them.

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6. He doesn’t want you to meet his family

Most of us would think twice before introducing someone to our family and friends because it is a significant step in the course of a relationship and is usually considered a sign that things are getting serious.

So anyone who is avoiding introducing you to their family after you’ve been together for some time is probably not serious about you.

7. He has no interest in meeting your family

Similarly, if someone has no interest whatsoever to meet your family or is avoiding it is not serious about you, and wants to save himself the guilt and embarrassment of projecting anything serious to your family when he knows deep down that he is not serious about you.

8. He is inconsistent

When a guy’s words don’t match his actions…That’s a big red flag that he is not serious about you.

He might be telling you all sorts of beautiful things, projecting himself into the future with you, and building up expectations for you but if he does not follow up with concrete actions, he is probably just talking.

Talk is cheap, it does not cost him anything. He is using it to keep you around and have options, but he is probably not serious about you.

Concrete actions would be like going on vacation with you, introducing you to his friends/family, taking you on real dates, trying to really impress you.

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9. He is not showing you on his Social media

I get that some guys are not big on social media,

but if his social media is full of his ex gf pictures ( which it does not want to remove) yet he tells you he does not want to expose his relationship on Social Media.

…He is probably a liar and is not serious about you.


10. He doesn’t take you on traditional dates

Someone who is serious about you will court you and take you on traditional dates trust me.

Someone who isn’t will want to do just enough to keep you around, which does not include traditional dates that cost money and time.


11. He does only night dates and they always end up back at his place

It’s funny how you always seem to end up back at his place after you when on a date hein?

Either he is super cheap, or more probably he is only interested in sleeping with you.

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12. He s **ualizes all conversations

This is is similar to the booty call. If A guy s**ualizes all conversations…that’s probably all he is looking for.

Again lookout for patterns and don’t put your guards down when you meet someone new,



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